When you realize you have allowed people in your space even after promising yourself no one else could get close to you like a sister after your aunt died- who was like your sister, but you did anyway-then they do just what you were protecting yourself from, they hurt you.
If I call you a friend, I am a friend-solid. I do not understand individuals who call themselves a friend and talk about their so called friend to other people. Whatever you say will resurface, so just be genuine in relationships, and people will not have to hurt because of fake backstabbing non-loyalty. Also, just because a person does not reveal they know what has been verbalized about them, does not mean they are oblivious to the fact. Remember, you never know who knows who, and when you spread the business of others to one person, that person recognizes that you do not care, so they spread that information, too. Remember this also, you shared your problems with the person you backstabbed, they know your issues, so be aware of lash-back. Hurt people have been known to hurt people.
-Shavonne T. Harris